Not everything is perfect.
I normally wouldn’t bother, but something made me want to email you back on this… (good mood, i guess?)1. I don’t like the term tantrum, because it shows disrespect to the child. You would never tell an adult you care about that they are throwing a tantrum. You’d say they are upset, their feelings are hurt, etc.2. I am not trying to show off (I lol’ed at that). I am simply recording everything that she does and what she is like at this age. If that sounds like showing off to you, well then either Lexi is really advanced, if those things surprise you, or you’re reading too much into it or I am just a proud mama so I come off this way. Point a finger at a mother who isn’t proud of her child for every little thing they do.
3. I AM truly sorry you’ve lost interest. It happens, though. I understand…people go through different paths. I’ve lost interest in certain blogs, too.I think you might be reading into things more than you should , but I am and have always been the same here. Just honestly recapping our life and my opinions. If anything I’ve even gotten more honest, because the blog taught me to own and stand up for what I believe in. I think, maybe, if you read my posts with a different angle, not thinking that I am trying to make something out of myself or my daughter, but thinking about the fact that I am another mother who is going through raising her daughter and navigating the parenting field, then you would once again find pleasure in it. I would hope! Cheers!
Thank you for replying (: I hope I didn’t come off as being rude to you.I guess I just feel like you always make Lexi and parenting sound so perfect. Lexis brilliant, she’s so easy, she’s the best of everything, etc. that’s certainly how it comes off. And that’s where I feel the disconnect.Parenting is NOT easy. Toddlers are NOT perfect. Like I said in my comment, I have my own toddler(16 months) and as much as I am admittedly obsessed with him and love him more than life, he can be difficult and he has some mannerisms that drive me nuts and he is not perfect.Yes I brag on him constantly, but I also know that he can be a crabby patty at times and he is stubborn and hard headed and can be very difficult at times. But I know that is normal. Completely normal. Especially for a toddler. Ugh, I feel like I’m just rambling now.Basically it just seems that you get so caught up in Lexi’s achievements and seem to forget the fact that she is a seemingly average toddler and that it’s ok if she’s not always perfect. Nobody is.I’m probably not even making any sense but again, thank you for writing back. (:And I certainly could be reading too deep into things. I tend to do that from time to time!
My response that followed:
Ah! Now it makes sense! and doesn’t at the same timeI write about good things because I am a positive person, I like happy things, I focus on happy things. I started this blog like this and I don’t think I ever wrote about anything negative really. I don’t see the point- it doesn’t make me happy. Writing about good things makes me happy. In fact, if something really bad were to happen, I would be one of those bloggers who would fall off the face of the earth without a warning, rather than those that who tell their sad story to the world.If something not so good happens, I put a positive spin on it. That’s my nature. I hate reading blogs where everyone always complains. Those are just our differences…I have many readers write to me saying how much they love how positive I am about Lexi. So there hahaha.No but really, think about it. I know it seems like I write for an audience, but I really do it because it makes ME feel good. It feels good to share, I love finding amazing products no one has ever heard of (kinda my passion), I love posting pictures because pictures are visual and I am highly visual, I love recording what Lexi is like at each point of our lives.Why would I write about the bad things that happen? The hard things? That’s not what I want to remember. And to be honest, I just don’t focus on them.So when I write about what Lexi is like at 2, I will write about all the amazing things. Does that make sense? Or maybe it’s that I don’t see the stubbornness and emotions as a big deal. They don’t really bother me, I see them for what they are. They come, they go – life is good again.In all honesty, though, the reason why I write about the fact that Lexi is an easy toddler, is because she kinda is. I know it’s not what you want to hear and every child is different, but even with her whiny moments and mini-freak outs, she is a lot of freaking fun. I think the issue here is you have a 16 months old. Do you know how hard she was at 16-22 months? Really hard! Asserting her will all the time, going from thing to thing. It was frustrating. Really. But I was patient and just let her do her thing.And now she is 2 and guess what? IT’S AHMAZING! hahaha Really! Maybe it’s the positive person in me speaking, but I am telling you compared to the age you’re at, this is a cake walk. (if you know how to approach her and her day). It’s hard to be a parent period, but this is by the far the easiest age so far ( she was pretty difficult as a newborn, I still dread those days) She loves doing everything, she gets excited about everything, she is fun, she isn’t that stubborn, she doesn’t throw tantrums, she is agreeable most of the time, you can reason with her, she can tell you what’s up and what she wants. It’s a totally different ballgame.Not all toddlers are a joy at 2, but I just think in comparison 2 year olds are sooooo much easier than 16 months olds. if you give them enough freedom to be their own person and make some of the choices. She still doesn’t let me do anything and it’s danger aversion every two seconds but at least she will now listen to what I say and follows it. So that makes it better. Oh and almost forgot, I also have a great support system in the form of my husband. He really helps out. Does all of this make sense? Hey, i need to publish all of this as a post… So many people just read what their emotions let them read but don’t take things at face value. maybe that will be helpful 😉
And there is where you have pinpointed the huge difference between us! You are an optimist where I am a realist! Nothing wrong with either of those traits. Those differences is what makes this world beautiful.I too blog. It’s for myself and my family. I literally get like 10 hits a week lol Anyways it’s where I document my son (Cooper) and our lives and I know I will always cherish it as something to look back on, as will he (hopefully).I don’t complain constantly on my blog but I don’t write all positive things either. I write about those crappy days where he whines all day, the frustrations, the fits, the messes, the days he fights sleep, etc. he too, was an extremely difficult newborn; reflux and just really hated life until he was about 7-ish months old. And along with that, I too absolutely DREAD another newborn. We are talking about trying for another one and I am terrified to have another newborn that may be as unhappy as our Cooper was. I think it scarred me! If I could give birth to a one year old, that would be great lol!Back to blogging though, I do write about bad stuff because it is real. I write about my feeling because they are real. Whether we had a good day or a day I want to pull my hair out! I want to remember the truth of it all 30 years down the road when I am looking back. And obviously the majority of what I write is not negative. I love writing about his personality, his current obsessions, his milestones, etc. all the stuff I want to remember when my baby is grown.So we are both alike and different. Two moms documenting our babies lives. We just have two different ways of going about doing it. And that’s where I wasn’t seeing eye to eye with you (:And as far as the age thing goes. The older he gets I DEFINITELY enjoy him more. I’m not a fan of the baby stage and obviously reaaaaally not a fan of newborns lol. 16 months has been fun so far and for the most part he is a really good boy. He is good with boundaries and for the most part listens and understands very well. He is slowly learning that he can exert his independence and this is where the fits are coming into play. And another frustrating thing about this age is the lack of language skills on his side. He understands almost all of what we say to him but isn’t always able to communicate his wants to us, so that frustrates him. I’m sure once he gets that language explosion (he has about 15 words right now) and starts stringing words together, we will not have as many issues with that.He is also a very sensitive little guy so I have to work hard on the right way to correct a behavior as to not upset him too much.So basically, I think it was a misunderstanding on my part and I apologize 😉 I should learn to read things while taking other peoples perspectives into play, as we all should. Some people thrive on being positive (you), some are more realistic (me) and there are some poor souls that always look at the negative. I’m really glad you emailed me so we could both see where each other were coming from.And you should totally publish that as a post! I know you have a lot of readers that it would probably answer a lot of questions for.
Well, that was a very positive post – it put a smile on my face! I am too glad that we got a chance to talk. Which is really really really not a normal occurrence, because I am too busy to respond to negativity (see, the positive person in me talking again. well that and the busy person), so I am not even sure why I felt inclined to email you. People misread me all the time (how could they not? I am a blogger!) and I rarely care to explain things to them So glad we got that straightened out. (…)
And this is not me NOT writing about the bad stuff. There are challenges, of course, there are difficult times, when I am ready to tear my hair out or at least have a cup of tea in some cave, but it has nothing to do with her personality but just with the fact that it’s just dang hard to be a parent. And with the fact that I AM NOT PERFECT.
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