Comments on: How I learned to deal with lack of time {Emotionally} -title changed :)

By: Elena @The Art of Making a Baby

Elena @The Art of Making a Baby — Wed, 08 May 2013 04:10:03 +0000

Aaawww you’re so sweet! And so glad to hear that you experienced the same thing and came to the same conclusion! Babies can be hard, but I think the hardest part is not taking care of kiddos, but not having the time to yourself.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 08 May 2013 03:30:49 +0000

I just found your blog and LOVE It! Beautiful pictures and great content. I can relate with this post SOOO well. I had the exact same issue (and still struggle with it to this day sometimes) with not having a consistent predictable “break schedule.” I remember the moment that I ACCEPTED how things were and it was life changing. Great post, can’t wait to read more!

By: Elena @The Art of Making a Baby

Elena @The Art of Making a Baby — Sat, 27 Oct 2012 01:31:13 +0000

Yup, that’s the feeling! But the only thing that matters is that it’s what your baby needs :) So keep on keeping on :)

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 22:30:33 +0000

Re-reading his post, it totally resonates with me! My little guy is 6 weeks old… We bedshare as well, and he sleeps pretty good at night. Napping during the day is another story! Like Lexi, he only wants to sleep ON me.. As soon as I lay him down, he’s awake.. And I’m totally feeling like I get nothing accomplished.

By: Elena @The Art of Making a Baby

Elena @The Art of Making a Baby — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 00:48:34 +0000

Yes! I read this exact thing too.
However when your baby doesn’t fall asleep drowsy (and many don’t) you do what you have to which includes rocking to sleep, nursing to sleep, etc

By: Bec

Bec — Sat, 08 Sep 2012 22:39:44 +0000

On the whole rocking to sleep… I read somewhere once (pre baby so foggy) that rocking / holding to sleep and then putting bub in the cot would be similar to us going to sleep in our beds (somewhere warm & snuggly) and suddenly finding ourselves asleep in the bath tub (a bit of a shock!). Instead bub should be put to bed once they’re almost asleep and patted or soothed until they’re asleep to help in that transition. Plus it sets up that expectation that “this is my bed and this is where I go to sleep”

By: Elena @The Art of Making a Baby

Elena @The Art of Making a Baby — Sun, 02 Sep 2012 12:06:41 +0000

I read the book and am not the fan of the CIO recommendation but like you said its what you choose to take away from it.
Lexi has been taking consistent naps from the beginning, that has never been a problem. She’s pretty much like clockwork unless we are out.
The advice of putting her to bed drowsy just isn’t something that ever worked for her. If you put her down before she is asleep she is instantly either wide awake or crying with her eyes closed cuz she wants to sleep and since I’m not willing to let her cry, it’s never worked.

It’s awesome that your babies would let you put them down while drowsy though!!!

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 02 Sep 2012 05:04:10 +0000

I know what you mean, but I will say for us, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child made a HUGE difference. Literally the day I started following its suggestions (not CIO–as a pp mentioned, people often think he pushes that but he really just presents a lot of information and how to use it whether you bed-share, check and console, do exctinction; whatever) … but I started following its suggestions regarding nap scheduling and how to put babies down drowsy but awake and from that day on, my twin boys both went from scattered, totally inconsistent and unpredictable random naps throughout the day to a steady, consistent nap schedule. They started napping a good 1.5 hrs twice a day plus an early evening cat nap, and within a week or two that lengthened to 2-hr naps twice a day. So for us at least, HSHHC really did make a world of difference.

By: Elena @The Art of Making a Baby

Elena @The Art of Making a Baby — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 13:22:33 +0000

The whole night is one big dream feed for her lol JK. But in all honesty, she wakes up once an hour until about 10pm and ten every 2-3 hours. When I come to bed at 10, she always wakes up and has a feed anyways. For her, I believe it’s more of a comfort thing than being really hungry. Though if she happens to sleep for a longer stretch when I first put her down, I’ll try a dream feed. It’s an interesting concept.

Re: comments, thanks for the feedback. I try to match the tone of the comment, but sometimes i do get frustrated ( I realize it’s hard to understand the tone over the internet, but I am never aggressive), not at the advice, but at the assumptions and misconceptions. Sometimes it seems like a commenter didn’t even read the post, but instead read the comments and assumed certain things. That’s all.

By: Leigh M

Leigh M — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 06:31:56 +0000

This is not a comment regarding sleep training but I did want to share something that has been helping our baby sleep through the night. At about one month we started ‘dream feeding’ our baby at 11pm and he is able to sleep from 8pm to 7.30am. It was a suggestion I heard in my Mommy & Me group and decided to try it. If you aren’t familiar with it, basically you feed your baby when they are still asleep, no burping, no diaper changing and it ‘resets’ their clock so they’re full and less likely to wake up throughout the night. We feed our baby with a bottle but I know other mothers who successfully dream feed with breast. It’s kind of amazing, they will absolutely take it while totally asleep!

And Elena, I have a suggestion for your blog…I realize that many people write comments here purely to be antagonistic BUT I’ve felt increasingly frustrated at your responses over the last few entries to comments from women I’d view to be giving reasonable, intelligent responses. I get how annoying it is to be told over and over what you ‘should’ be doing but I feel like you could deal with it in a less aggressive way. It’s wonderful that so many people care enough to share their experiences and even if they aren’t relevant to you, maybe they are to someone else. I feel like a comment inviting other people to talk about what they’ve been through in relation to an entry might help comments be less directed at you specifically. You’ve said before that you’d like to join a Mommy & Me group…well, it seems to me you’re already part of a pretty big one.